Things I Learned In The Last 24 Hours
Proof of hand stenciled logo before it disappeared.
No, I wouldn't win Cake Wars, but it was there.
You ever notice how sometimes days or weeks go by and everything is status quo? Just rolling along and minding your own business. One foot in front of the other and all that. Then one day, BAM! The universe starts throwing all kinds of flotsam and jetsam in your path to see if you’re paying attention? To see if you aren’t just wandering through life half asleep?
Well that just happened to me…. Again. I say again, because it happens to me more often than I’d like. But the point is, it just happened. Sometimes it’s o.k., sometimes it sucks and sometimes I don’t get the joke (the universe has a weird sense of humour). But if nothing else, when these wake-up calls happen, I usually learn a ton, or remember stuff I had forgotten.
To illustrate, here are some things that were ‘brought to my attention’ in the last 24 hours...
- Even when you fancy yourself a good cook and experienced home baker, sometimes your cake is going to stick to the pan and the special icing sugar logo you made from the stencil you crafted yourself, based on some imaginary cola from a video game you’ve never heard of, will melt into the icing and be indecipherable when you unveil the cake the next morning. That time will usually be when you are baking a cake for your kid’s birthday. You will then thank your lucky stars that your 8-year-old suggested you take a picture of the finished product, ‘just in case’.
- Most people who work at banks are pretty good humans like the rest of us. They’re just doing their jobs and don’t like the ‘big bad money glutton’ they work for all that much either.
- People will spend enormous amounts of time, energy and money on their kids, but often very little on themselves. Thought: I wonder what the world would be like if we cared about our own well being as much as that of our kids? I bet everyone, kids AND adults, would be a whole lot happier and less stressed out. We teach by example. That notion seems lost on a lot of people.
- Your kids will suddenly be almost teenagers, whether you were paying attention or not. In the long run, the 30 000 accumulated hours of waiting for someone to tie their shoe, is a drop in the bucket. You will never regret it unless you spent most of that time yelling at your kid to hurry up. Hey, I said most. We ALL lose it on occasion. Trust me, a sloth would beat my 12-year-old in a foot race… and it wouldn’t talk as much. Crazy-making. The point is, the practice of mindful parenting is something you’ll never regret and something I wish it hadn’t taken me as long to adopt in my own life.
- Focussing on the past, doesn’t change the present. Re-visiting your ‘woulda, shoulda, coulda list’, does nothing but make you feel crappy. Sure there’s no harm in learning from our past mistakes, or the past mistakes of others… that’s what we’re supposed to do, but marinating in that toxic waste will mess you up. You want to move forward, not backwards or stay stuck where you are. You move forward by acknowledging where you’ve been, with the wisdom you’ve gained from those experiences, and with compassion. Then, you focus on what action you need to take now to get you where you want to be in the future. Because eventually, the future will be today. (I feel like right there, I was just channeling Master Oogway, the old turtle guy from Kung-Fu Panda. Whoa).
- People hire other people to do so much crazy shit I can’t even fathom it. I recently joined a site for freelancers. Holy Moly! It’s a big wild world out there where people who clearly have a whole lot of extra cash lying around, pay other people to do stuff like write emails or even entire conversations for them. Not. Even. Kidding.
- If today really sucks monkey balls, tomorrow, or maybe the next day, will likely be better. Or at least you’ll get tired of being a miserable wench and moping around like a Trump who lost her diamond scented lip gloss, and eventually you'll decide to change your attitude. Then you’ll remember that changing your attitude often changes the circumstances around you too. Magic.
- Sometimes support and encouragement comes from people and places you never would have expected. Taking a wider view of things and being open to the possibilities you never considered, can be just the breath of fresh air your spirit needs.
- I seem to have a thing for writing lists. Stuff just comes out like this. Maybe it’s my brain's way of keeping track of the never-ending stream of words and ideas floating around in there. Or maybe it’s my Virgo rising. Virgo’s love themselves a good list.
- You can only do your best and your best looks different depending on the day. Some days you are kicking life’s ass like Tony effing Robbins. Other days eating cake for lunch and remembering to brush your hair is all you’ve got. In the end, it all evens out and you consider that most days, you’re functioning slightly above average and that’s pretty good.