Practical Magic for Soul Liberation

I have a lot to say....

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Sometimes it's serious, sometimes it's silly, but it's always the truth.

Mostly, I share my stories and the wisdom gained from my own journey, in hopes that it helps you on yours.

Why I Don’t Do New Year’s Resolutions

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It's New Year’s Day.  Social media, the internet, and communication in general is a buzz with bold declarations for a new and improved year ahead... Renewed commitments to work, relationships, hobbies, spirituality, and especially health.  Advertisements abound for the latest in exercise, and especially diet programs……Everyone and their dog is declaring their intentions to hit the gym, buy a treadmill, join a Pilates class, go paleo/gluten free/vegan/local/hormone diet……the list goes on.

I get it. I really do. The New Year seems like the ‘right’ time to turn over a new leaf….and it very well might be for many people.  BUT….not necessarily for everyone…..maybe not for you, and most definitely not for me.

Here are 8 reasons that I gave up declaring New Year’s Resolutions a long time ago:

Shhh.....Your Inner Voice is Trying to Tell You Something  (The Results of Taking Imperfect Action)

Last week I wrote a post about my experience at the World Domination Summit, many of the key lessons I learned there, and how thankful I am that I made that investment in myself. I also mentioned that the reason I even ended up there in the first place, was because of a course I took with Scott Dinsmore called, How To Connect With Anyone. I just love how one good thing leads to another :) I've been doing a lot of reflecting on all of this, and decided that I needed to do a bit of a prequel for you. You know, like when they make a movie and then later, they decide they need to tell the back-story in a little more detail. Think 'Star Wars: The Phantom Menace' (Return of the Jedi), or 'Puss in Boots' (Shrek 2). You see, I realized that the events leading up to me attending WDS and having the experience of a lifetime, actually all started the moment I decided to sign up for an online course I knew nothing about. Just like I wrote about last week, I took Imperfect Action, even though I had no idea what the end result would be.

Rewind about 18 months from today....

The Only Way to Change the World

 

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It's ALL about you.  No really....it is! I know that sounds like an insane thing to say, especially in light of all the chaos and suffering going on in the world right now, but hear me out.

I used to obsess over changing the world. All my awareness and attention was on what was happening 'externally'. I spent a TON of energy focussing on the injustices on the planet, in my community, at work, and even in my own family. I agonized over how to 'fix' people, organizations, systems and situations. I argued my point A LOT, and was almost apoplectic when things didn't go my way or people didn't see 'the obvious'. And of course....I WAS ALWAYS right. I figured, if I was just passionate and articulate enough about what I thought/believed....then I could convince everyone else that they should agree with me and....well, problem solved dammit! The world/organization/family...would be all the better for seeing it my way.

That's how it's done right? Use your influence/knowledge/anger/passion/beliefs, to make everyone see the error of their ways, and force changes in the external world. Easy peasy. Except.....

The Importance of Investing in Yourself & Lessons in World Domination

On July 10th, I stepped WAY outside my comfort zone and travelled by myself, to Portland Oregon, to attend a 'conference' (I use that term very loosely), called The World Domination Summit (WDS for short). This is a yearly gathering of more than 2 500 like-minded/hearted people from across the globe. It's the brain child of an incredibly humble, yet outstanding human being named, Chris Guillebeau. The whole event is centred on the question: 'How do we live a remarkable life in a conventional world?' Bloody good question eh? The three core values of this gathering are: Community, Adventure & Service. Everything that happens in conjunction with WDS, speaks to these.

While there, I met up with some soul sisters, made a ton of new friends, learned from a bunch of incredibly inspiring speakers, became a superhero, got to meet some people I really admire, attended an opening night party which featured a circus, and the closing night festivities which featured hot air balloon rides, a rock orchestra and a Bollywood dance party. Aside from that, there were the endless food trucks, a river cruise, an encounter with a shaman, fun meet-ups all over town, and surprises around every corner. Oh.....and incidentally, I am now a world record holder (well, me and 807 of my new friends). No guff.

Can I Get A Do-Over?

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Awhile back, I had ONE OF THOSE MORNINGS! You know the kind. After a cruddy, fitful sleep, filled with dreams about rats with painted on eyebrows and guest bathrooms that nobody ever cleans, I woke up late, achy, and in no mood to deal with anyone's crap. EVERYTHING was wrong and pissing me off.....and I hadn't even gotten out of bed yet!

Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want!

Do you know what you want out of life? I mean do you REALLY know? I used to think I did. I had gone to school, gotten a few degrees, held a variety of decent jobs, and eventually a good career in teaching. I had a bunch of friends, a solid relationship, a house, a dog, eventually two kids, etc, etc. Basically, I was on my way to having all the 'trappings' of a pretty standard, so called 'successful' life.

Then I discovered that chasing after what I wanted, or at least what I thought I wanted, or even more accurately, what society said I should want, was not making me happy. In fact, at a certain point, I realized that I was waaaaaay off course. I started trying to figure out how this could be. I had done all the right things. School, jobs, mortgages, marriage, kids. I was a responsible adult dammit! I HAD to be happy. But somehow, I just couldn't shake the feeling that something wasn't quite right. I was parading around in my best polyester pants and heels, just like all the other professional women....but I felt like I was wearing a COSTUME. This was a persona, this was NOT who I was. In fact, this is NEVER who I intended to be! I found myself wondering, "What the hell happened here?"

Enter.....Radiant Joy

A couple of nights ago, I had one of those Eureka moments. See, I've worked on uncovering my Core Desired Feelings for about a year or so now, and I was pretty confident I finally had all of them nailed down. There were a couple that I KNEW from the start, and a couple that I tried on for size for a while, until I realized they didn't quite resonate. That's the way the Desire Mapping process unfolded for me personally.

Eventually, the feelings that really clicked were: Connection, Abundance, Shakti (divine, feminine creative power) & Easy Freedom (cause in my mind....there IS such a thing as freedom that doesn't feel easy).

Yep! Got it! THOSE are the feelings I desire. Next step....start making decisions and directing my life in such a way that leads me to those feelings as often as possible. Check!

This process has been a total game changer for me. Like, TOTAL.

Silence Your Inner Gollum

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I have a question for you. Have you ever noticed the running commentary that goes on in your head?

Yes....I AM accusing you of talking to yourself. We ALL do it; me, you, your boss, your mechanic, the Dalai Lama, Brad Pitt, the Queen. Every person in the whole damn world is going around having a conversation with themselves most of the time.

Sometimes the voice is running through a list of all the things you need to do that day. Sometimes it's replaying the argument you had with your spouse the night before. Sometimes it's got the lyrics to the latest Disney song, or to Achy Breaky Heart, on repeat. Mostly though, it's telling you that you shouldn't have done this or that, that you really need to lose 10 pounds, or that you are a bad parent for forgetting to send the pizza order form back to school before the deadline....shame on you!

I have a recent personal example to illustrate:

Apples to Oranges

There was a time when I used to base my happiness and success on how things in my life outwardly appeared in comparison to other people. I would look at friends, family members, class mates, co-workers, acquaintances and sometimes even complete strangers and think, "OMG...they have it SO much more together than I do! They make more money, have more fun, live in bigger houses, go on regular vacations with their partner, have children who clean up after themselves, consistently look like they have a personal wardrobe assistant and..... their roots are NEVER showing!! Why am I such a freaking hot mess in comparison?"

Attack of the Emotional Vampires

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Do encounters with certain people leave you feeling completely drained? Does the thought of having to spend time with a particular person make you feel edgy, anxious and downright exhausted? Do you sometimes feel like you need to binge on comfort food and take a nap after you've been in someone's presence? Is there a person in your life that has the uncanny ability to kick your upbeat mood right in the crotch, and leave you limping away dazed and confused?

If you find yourself nodding your head or answering "yes" to any of these questions....then you, my friend, have been the victim of an emotional vampire attack!